Posted by giget on July 25, 2003, at 6:46:14
In reply to Re: So Screwed up.... again, posted by paxvox on July 24, 2003, at 17:57:35
Our Relationship had a firm foundation. Just becasue I did not have the paperwork from the state, does not mean that my relationship ment any less than a marriage ment. I spent more time in this Relationship that some people do in there marriages.
You are on the outside and do not understand what is gonig on in his head or mine.
I was looking for some help here, not someone saying that my hurt is not bad enough, and to just get over it.
How can you just one day let go of the one you have loved for so long and just forget about them. That person was your life, and it is a missing part for a while. Why do were have the greaving cycle set for the loss of a relationship, no matter if it is a marriage or not?
> When is it done. Tough question, with even a tougher answer. If HE says he is done with it, and is moving along fine w/o you (i.e. going on dates, etc..) that's a pretty fair indication that it is over to him. If he thinks he can do that AND string you along for an occasional boff, then YOU need to be strong enough to tell him to bug off. An open wound where you keep picking the scab will continue to hurt you, and it will not heal over. A wound that is treated and left alone will heal more quickly, and leave less of a scar. I know how you feel, as I have been on both sides of your situation. For my 2 cents, the sooner you can end it, the sooner you can begin to live again for yourself, and the sooner you might notice the eye of that fellow you have always thought was cute and kind. Life is too short to put up with BS that you can end. A marriage is one thing, but a relationship without firm foundations.....well.....
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