Posted by kara lynne on July 12, 2003, at 0:22:03
In reply to Boyfriend freak-out number 87, posted by Tabitha on July 11, 2003, at 14:44:21
Not exactly the voice of healthy relationship, here.
I *really* understand the desire to avoid loneliness. I have been doing it for the past three years (about the time the relationship began to go sour). I always knew in my gut something wasn't right, but I hoped it would work out. It might have if both parties were interested.
I have a friend with a needy boyfriend and we were discussing how repellent that can be the other day. Not that men can't have needs, but he's being too much too soon and there are some red flags for her. It sucks to be the needy one and it sucks to be the partner of the needy one too. I think in the end it will be easier for you to deal with separation being in the position you're in. Not that that won't bring out *your* neediness---oy vey. The cycle goes on.
I hate to say it, but you'll just do it when you're ready. It sounds like you are nearing that point. And you won't have let it go on as long as I did.
Again, I'm not the best person to write because I'm so lonely right now. I'm trying to be strong. I'm not doing the best job. You sound like a strong person to me. I know you'll do what you need to do.
poster:kara lynne
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