Posted by Greg A. on July 11, 2003, at 14:29:20
In reply to Please tell me any reason not to call him..., posted by kara lynne on July 9, 2003, at 22:52:54
kara lynne
sorry to interrupt the male bashing . . . not really. I wrote once a long time ago about my experience with becoming totally infatuated with a woman at my office who had split up with her husband. Nothing physical ever happened over the 4 year period but I wanted it to. I am married of course with two teenage daughters but my chromosomes and the resultant hormones ruled my life at that time. You may recall that I had ECT last fall and returned to work feeling more depressed that I ever have in my life. This wonderful person called the cops on me for supposedly threatening her but I really think she decided she wanted nothing to do with a mentally ill person and this was her compassionate way of letting me know.
Now to the point of this – how to escape from a person you thought you cared about and who you thought cared about you.
As someone said – time. You will think straighter and the hurt will be far less painful. I know, easier said than done. It’s like quitting smoking - one day at a time.
Write down your hateful feelings and questions of how he could have done this to your life knowing that you are not well. Get rid of the feeling but on paper only. Don’t re-read them. (there is no use in telling him because if he cared he would still be with you)
Please avoid contact. You will only start the cycle again. (like having one cigarette)
Know that you are the caring, good person (not him) because you would never do what he has done.
Try not to feel that you are somehow second rate. Chances are he will find out shortly that his new partner has flaws which make Ilsa She-Wolf of the SS look like Mary Poppins. Men are exceedingly stupid that way. Everything looks so attractive and better when viewed from below the waist. When the novelty wears off we discover someone who would phone the cops on a very ill person.I wish you well
Greg A.
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