Posted by whiterabbit on July 9, 2003, at 13:39:06
In reply to infuriated and in tears, posted by Penny on July 9, 2003, at 11:28:27
Penny-
Wish you & Kaly could hook up, she has roommate trouble too. But she lives in the UK.I think you should stay away from your roommate as much as possible until things settle down. Just stay away from her...it sounds like she's pretty much gotten on your last nerve & the situation will only escalate from here if you try to confront her.
I just went through this kind of scenario myself with my own "roommate" - my husband of 20 years who is in the process of divorcing me. We're still living together for now while the legalities & technicalities are being worked out.
Right after his announcement that he intended to divorce me, it got pretty ugly around here for awhile - ugly being an understatement. At one point my son was holding us apart because I was so furious.My only point being, if me & whatshisface can manage to live in the same house, you guys can too. Like I said, just stay away from her for now. This isn't backing down or giving in, it's just cooling off. You're not going to get anything accomplished while your nerves are so raw, believe me. In the meantime, if she tries to start something with you, just close your eyes and take a deep breath. Your motto for now is:
DON'T COMPLAIN, DON'T EXPLAIN.
Then physically remove yourself from her presence. Do you have a Walgreens in town? Go on down there & pick up a bottle of...wait a minute, I have to find my own bottle...no I'm not talking about a bottle of liquor...ummm, here we go. It's called Chitosol. It doesn't bother me to go into the drugstore & read the labels on every single bottle of vitamins and diet stuff, although an employee walks up to me every 15 minutes or so & says, "Uhhh, can I HELP you?" and I say, "Yeah, get on up there to the cash register, I'll be there in a little bit." Then they go away & I keep on reading.
Anyway from my survey at Walgreens, Chitosol looks like the best deal on chitosan, the fat-blocking stuff. Every capsule has 500 mg and you only have to wait ONE TO FIVE MINUTES after taking the capsules before you can eat. Even I can wait that long! So the next time you just HAVE to eat a piece of cake or something, take the Chitosol first & that will help minimize the damage & you won't feel so guilty. I don't think you should feel guilty anyway...there are MURDERERS out there who don't feel guilty & here you are beating yourself up over a piece of cake.
Okay, hope this helps even a tiny bit.
-Gracie
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