Posted by lil' jimi on July 7, 2003, at 13:09:28
In reply to What do I do with the anger?, posted by tina on July 6, 2003, at 21:03:51
hi tina,
i fight unfocused rage on a regular basis ... ... innocuous stuff will have me seething at innocent folks ... ... and then something real will set me off and steam will start coming out my ears (not really, of course) ... ... it's when i have a real reason to be mad that i face the greatest challenge ...
before i share, please allow me to apologize ... ... i do not presume to presume on your spiritual beliefs ... ... i will depend on you to fill in the blanks with the appropriate variables of your faith ... ...
i have come to recognize that there is a LOT of energy in my anger, and that i need to do 2 things with it:
1) not let it hurt me
and
2) not let it hurt anyone else ... ..
.. .. which can be tough when there's a prime candidate just begging for it (!) ...
... but i do mean "to not hurt Emotionally" ...
... .. ... i am not physical with this stuff ....... similarly, i have come to realize that
1) i am not as smart as i think i am
and
2) i am a LOT less smart when i am mad ... ...SO
... ... when i am angry i call upon a Higher Power i can trust (i am a Buddhist, but this is one of those blanks you can fill in as you please); then i solicit Their wisdom and make the anger's energy my offering to Them that They may direct my energy with Their wisdom toward justice.
... ... this works for me in (at least!) 2 ways:
1) i get rid of the energy
and
2) it goes to Those Who know how to better direct it to the goals i would choose AND to better effect than i would use it ... ... if i could use it to any good at all!then i can relax with the faith that Those Who can help me will see to those who would hurt me ... ... without me engaging in the process.
i hope this helps you ... ... let me know if i can make this clearer for you ...
be at peace,
~ jim
poster:lil' jimi
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