Posted by bookgurl99 on June 9, 2003, at 13:44:30
In reply to Re: Lots of changes and upheaval at home, posted by whiterabbit on June 9, 2003, at 12:30:17
Gracie,
Thanks for your note. I will forward it to my gf and ask her to think about it.
When my gf finally talked to me about it, she told me that she had called the people in charge of this position (it's music related), and that it is quite different from the regular military experience in that she would have a permanent posting. The position is responsible for military music obligations in the D.C. area. She would come in at E-6 pay level. There _are_ other bands assigned overseas.
Actually, musicians are treated much differently in the military than regular enrolled personnel. I had her explain the posting to me, and I looked at the website for it, which indicated a permanent posting at Ft. Myer, Virginia. Would permanent posting eliminate a lot of those moving-around problems?
I suspect that the musicians are treated differently because the positions are so competitive that they require experience to land. Muscians come in as officers with adult personalities, not the adolescents that the military loves to break down.
But, the lack of benefits is a pisser. I hate that she could be yanked away at any moment and I don't even get a f'in' how-do-you-do for being the shining light at home by the military.
I don't want to split up this relationship; this is a marriage to me. I hate the situation.
Conservatives view queers as anti-family, or as breaking up the family. But in reality, it's conservative measures against so-called nontraditional families (what's nontraditional about loving your wife?) that truly harm families. Homos aren't responsible for the problems -- divorce, teen pregnancy, abuse -- that heteros have inflicted upon themselves without our help.
I'm sure I'm preaching to the choir here.
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