Posted by Emily Barrett on June 5, 2003, at 20:57:37
In reply to Loneliness, Shyness, Social Phobia?, posted by Emily Barrett on June 4, 2003, at 3:22:06
Good luck with the Wellbutrin, Brooke. It can be so strange to look around at a party and see how effortless talking seems to be for most people. Once I get to know people, I'm a lot better about coming up with things to talk about. It's that initial breaking the ice that is the hardest part. It is helpful just to know that other people sometimes feel self-conscious, too.
Dinah, sorry to hear that you were the kid chosen to be picked on in your school, too! Bullies always seem to choose only one or two people in a grade, then focus all of their venom on that particular person/persons. And of course, even the nice kids are afraid to even so much as say "hello" to the "outcast", out of fear that they too will be ostracized. I agree, society is only just now starting to recognize just how painful that sort of treatment can be. My mother always was sympathetic, but my father actually blamed me for being ostracized! I'll never understand the "blame the victim" mentality. At least those days are over now!
Thanks to both of you for your advice. I wish all the best for you!
Emily
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