Posted by noa on April 12, 2003, at 11:49:03
In reply to Re: The other shoe (long) » noa, posted by Tabitha on April 12, 2003, at 2:38:10
Yeah, I'm kind of proud of myself for that one, too. I wish I hadn't even started with the questions preceding it, because it was so quickly getting out of my control, but I am proud of myself for stopping it and regaining control. So many times in my life I feel like I have somehow gotten myself dug into a hole because I didn't feel I had any control over the direction of a conversation. So maybe I'm finally learning how to step back and protect myself? I think that I was able to do that yesterday because I had so much prep going into the meeting--I knew it was likely I was getting a full time job because we kind of knew the number of positions that would be kept and dropped and the people who were dropped had already had their meetings. I also knew I had some of what I feel is rightful anger and that these managers feel some guilt and are somewhat afraid of our anger--this all allowed me to go in there with conviction that I had to listen but I didn't really need to respond much--ie, I could just take the info with me and respond later. I also knew I wasn't sure how to respond at the moment, or how I felt about staying, so I had planned to keep this meeting short and get back to them later. I kind of went in with a "yeah, whatever" attitude in my mind because I was so mad already. That is kind of empowering in a way.
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