Posted by Miller on April 3, 2003, at 16:50:32
In reply to Re: Child abuse questions....., posted by sienna on April 3, 2003, at 16:28:05
Sienna,
Don't get me wrong, everything my parents have done to me has NEVER made me stop loving them. In fact, in a way, I have learned to love them more. It is unfortunate that they weren't the best parents. It sucks they abused their kids. However, I love them and always will.
One of the hardest things I ever had to learn was that I couldn't "fix" what is/was wrong. It's a hard lesson to swallow. It hurts, but reality is better and more honest to live with.
Sienna, I believe you were abused. That does not mean your dad is a monster. It doesn't mean you can't love him. It doesn't mean you have to decide what he did was illegal or not. In my opinion, itmeans you just need to look honestly at how you felt and how you feel about what happened. Sienna, take care of you and your opinions and feelings will all fall into place. It will hurt, but once you have done it, imagine the security you (we) will have knowing we have matured enough to look at what we had and be able to accept and forgive and move on?
:)
-Miller
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