Posted by shar on February 6, 2003, at 23:13:58
In reply to Re: Very Blue...any thoughts would help » Phil, posted by mikhail99 on February 6, 2003, at 21:58:31
Paige,
Your post didn't say anything about your social support system now--do you have friends and family you can be with? I think talking about your grief is so very important, and talking about your sister, so she stays real and with you. You can talk about the good times, the bad, stuff you both did together...all of it.I think the most striking thing about your post is that it sounds as if you are alone, except for this unreliable (bozohead) man who is not being a particularly supportive friend to you. If you have other friends, spend time with them. If you don't and you're in college, there should be avenues open to you to find a helpful ear (counselor, advisor, clergy, whatever).
Plus, spend time in different places that might be comforting for you. Church may be one, even if you're not a strong believer. Or, if your sister and you walked or went to a particular place, it might be nice to visit there.
Most of all, hang in there. I also echo what Phil said in his post. This is an extremely traumatic event for you, and being very blue makes a lot of sense. I can assure you that, over time, your pain will be less intense, your life will come together more. Right now, just staying the course, putting one foot in front of the other should be considered success.
Good luck to you, I hope you find comfort and support.
Shar
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