Posted by bluedog on February 2, 2003, at 12:06:13
In reply to Re: Please don't misunderstand., posted by Dinah on February 2, 2003, at 11:04:45
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> I'm trying to maintain my esteem for others, my caring for others, by asking you all straight out if you find sensitive people or sensitivity unacceptable or something to be mocked or belittled.
>Hello again Dinah
I am myself an EXTREMELY sensitive individual. There is absolutely no way that I would ever find sensitivity unacceptable and I doubt that others on this board would take that view either. I would be willing to bet quite a bit of money that the majority of the posters at PSB are actually very sensitive individuals no matter what bravado some posters may put up to the contrary.
I do however believe that both Oddipus and Iso had a misunderstanding and that they should have been left completely alone to work out there differences between themselves rather than everyone immediately jumping in to either take sides or play the role of peacemaker.
I believe that both Oddipus and Iso are both sensitive caring individuals and that through a misunderstanding they hurt eachother.....though there is no way I would class the wounds inflicted as mortal. They hurt eachother through absolutely no malicious feelings or intent to hurt on the others part.
However they are also both adult human beings and believe that had everyone just "butted out" they would have sorted out their differences all on their own and come to a greater and deeper understanding of eachother and probably even ended up coming away from the experience as great friends. I don't think it benefits disagreements on this board when everyone feels the immediate need to jump in with their own two cents worth.
I honestly believe that in these situations that Bob should develop or fine tune the civility rules to BAN everyone from taking part in a difference of opinion between individual posters until the individuals concerned have had the opportunity to discuss their differences with eachother individually without the waters being muddied by everyone else immediately jumping in to either take sides or to try and play peacemaker. Of course malicious personal attacks should not be tolerated but I strongly believe that Bob or someone acting in an official role as one of Bob's deputies should be the ONLY persons allowed to add to these discussions to ensure that the discussions remain within certain civility guidelines.....but some leeway and flexibilty should be allowed for the posters to vent their feelings.
Only if it becomes clearly apparent that the individuals will not be able to resolve their differences should Bob then step in and ban further posts on the particular topic for a set period of time (a cool off period if you like) say for a period of two weeks. He should not block the individuals unless one or the other persists in discussing the topic after Bob has imposed a "cool Off" period. I guarantee you that by the end of the cool off period that the posters would have been able to take a step back to put things into perspective and in most liklihood decide that their differences were really not that significant or earth shattering after all and may even decide to simply agree to disagree on a very amicable basis.
Just my opinion really but I again emphasise that I in no way find sensitivity unacceptable and actually find sensitivity a positive character trait rather than a character flaw in any individual.
warm regards
bluedog
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