Posted by ROO on January 29, 2003, at 9:06:24
In reply to Re: running into an ex-partner., posted by Phil on January 29, 2003, at 6:44:36
Bookgurl--
Just wanted to say, Yes, I've felt that way...Not too
long ago, this summer, I was in a short, intense relationship
with a guy who ended up leaving me because of my depression.
I felt horribly rejected...it pushed all my buttons...(One of my
buttons is "depressed people are unlovable")...and like you, it hurt
my pride, because previously, I had always been the one to leave my
relationships and this time _I_ got dumped. So I _still_ feel a stab
of pain when I think of him...not because the relationship was so great, but
because it pushed a lot of my buttons and I got rejected.Time (and being with someone else that I had a lot of fun with) helped heal
the wounds and give me perspective and I am able to see that his rejecting me
wasn't all about me being this totally flawed person....it's also about him and
what he can't deal with inside himself....so....I've let go of a lot of angerAlso...I try to focus on what _I_ need from someone...do _I_ want to be with someone
that can't deal with my depression? That can't be with me during the good times AND the
bad times? Nooooooooo.....so HE's not for ME...he did me a favor!Anyway...just wanted to let you know...I know how you feel...the sting will lessen...especially
now that you have a sweetie that you really love and that really loves you (I've seen you post
quite a bit about your GF and you seem to have a really good relationship with her). Yay!
poster:ROO
thread:35903
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