Posted by kath on January 4, 2003, at 20:22:58
In reply to Re: support for abused women-yes but, posted by Kam on January 4, 2003, at 8:24:52
Miller - you are so brave for talking about things to the extent that you have here!!!!!!! Hope you give yourself a pat on the back for that. Also, it's a compliment to the safety that you feel here.
K - thx for being open & sharing & being so willing to help others. How wonderful that you not only got out of that situation, but also are so willing & ready to help others. I hope that your son didn't witness too much of the violence. I also hope that he has been able to open up & talk about his childhood. Most of all, I hope he knows that how his father was is NOT OKAY. You must be so proud to have parented him in a way that he's able to carry on with his life in a positive way.
N - hi. Don't know if you remember a lady at Haven who was in a very abusive marriage. Her husband beat her face so much that the jaw-bones & face-bones were smashed. She's had numerous operations to try to fix her face up. She DID leave him, & does have a wonderful new relationship. It's not always easy, as she'll be the first to admit, but the more we all talk about it the better.
I hope that the women who get through it & heal will write openly about it. I'd love to see a book with various stories from women who've gotten out of bad relationships & gone forward.
Miller - no matter WHAT decisions you made; no matter HOW long you put up with the abuse - it is NOT your fault. NONE of it is your fault. It is SO important that you believe that. I send you big hugs....(((((((((((((((Miller))))))))))
love, Kath
> Noa,
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> I appreciate your response and yes you are so right that what is good for one may not be good for another. Thats for a therapist to decide for each individual. I simply want any abused woman out there to know they are somebody. And for me talking about it was my best therapy. And after my past experience and being diagnosed with PTSD, and anxiety, my ears are ALWAYS open and ready to listen to anyone else that has gone through or is going through a similar situation.
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