Posted by gloryb on August 29, 2002, at 6:52:05
In reply to Re: it's okay - allowed - to feel lonely, posted by fiona on August 28, 2002, at 8:47:48
When I read some of the experiences of others
I feel like I'm reading my own story. Only
my mother did have friends and encouranged me
to have them as well. Only I was bad at it.
Now my dad gives some exclamation every time
I say I'm going out with friends. He can't
believe I have a friend. I could do without
his disbelief! Not good for my confidence.We're having new neighbors moving in next door.
In the 15+ years we've been here we've had 3
sets of neighbors. I've become friendly with
none of them. I do not know how to do it!
I don't want this time to be like the other times
but I honestly do not know what to do.My hubby makes friends in a heartbeat. He's
outgoing and confident. I'm neither and I
always think people will say, "what makes that
woman think I want to bother with *her*"!It is ok to feel lonely, but loneliness is not
a good state to be in when it never ends. I think
when we feel that way we should allow the feeling
and then do something about it before we're feeling
it 10 years from now.And forget what those moms say that don't want
you to have friends! Mine used to want me to think
of her as almost sacred---honestly! I loved her,
but knew she was human. I think they have their
own needs regarding their relationships with their
kids. I don't know what my dad's problem is :)!
But he's 81 and I don't think I'll ever know!
poster:gloryb
thread:29420
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