Posted by shar on July 27, 2002, at 18:24:47
In reply to Re: Lurking ex-boyfriend » wendy b., posted by jane d on July 25, 2002, at 13:45:38
I am also the very curious (nosy) type, and would probably keep reading posts from my ex if that situation had occurred and I'd gotten his psycho-name. I think the point of concern for me is that he tells you about it, and after such a long time.
You are probably the best one to judge whether he is potentially dangerous or just nosy with time on his hands. The telling you about it, I think, is probably just a power play, something to knock you off balance and feel like he has the upper hand for the moment. Especially if he has some hard feelings about the olden days.
Like Shelli said, it is similar to sharing a circle of friends...he could bump into you at the movies and say, 'oh, XYZ told me you were doing abcdefg again' just to get your goat.
HOWEVER the SLIGHTEST hint of danger from him, or the slightest hint of Mania, and I say change your name immediately regardless of the fact that others will have to be notified. Be very careful if you think he might harass you or hurt you, and involve the police BEFORE you need them.
Shar
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