Re: great insights » Cecilia

Posted by tabitha on June 13, 2002, at 3:22:34

In reply to Re: Afraid to get better?, posted by Cecilia on June 13, 2002, at 2:40:40

Great insights, about the set-point. I can't imagine a therapist saying that though, I'd feel dumped. How did you handle it?
My therapist suggested I think I don't deserve to be happy. I can't connect with it though. It's more I just can't imagine myself happy. She asked what it would take to make me happy, and I drew a complete blank. Maybe that's fear of the unknown. I think I (and many people) just don't have a model for happiness. My mother was depressive, and having the same temperament is a kind of closeness. If I develop some new happy self it's like losing that connection, you know?
Intellectually I can say sure, it's fine to become happy, but at some level it would be like moving to some unfamiliar (thus terrifying) universe.

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