Posted by Cece on May 29, 2002, at 0:49:02
In reply to SNAP out of IT !, posted by CtrlAlt n Del on May 27, 2002, at 16:01:54
Well, your friend may have found that phrase useful, but I sure don't- and it doesn't sound like you did either.
I have a friend who, although generally very smart, chooses to remain ignorant about mood disorders. Stiff upper lip, cold showers, and "just snap out of it" (he has learned better than to say this directly to me, but says it when talking about a chronically depressed friend of his).
I've talked my head off trying to get through to him that his friend (or me, in bad times) may very well simply not have the ability to snap out of it- that is part of the nature and torture of depression and anxiety and other mood disorders.
I didn't really get through to him until I said (he's a heavy smoker): John, when you have lung cancer, I'll just tell you to take a cold shower and snap out of it. Nasty? Snapping out? Yes, but it made a dent in his ignorance and he's a good friend and we are pretty direct with each other.I do agree that it's always good to do the best for yourself to feel better- if that's a cold shower, well fine. Push yourself just a little bit if you can. Get good professional help and believe that you can feel better. But don't let anyone make you feel ashamed.
Cece
> Words of wisdom from someone a friend who has bipolar...SNAP OUT OF IT!
> I saw a tv programme supposed to be supportive informative about a girl almost dead with anorexia
> the female presenter waving a chocolate bar in her face then placed it on her lap..made me feel sick! even though I don't have that illness
> I don't know whats wrong with me ..
> but I'm open for debate on HOW TO SNAP OUT OF IT.
> That was all that friend had to say...BYEBYE.
> nOW i just feel stupid and useless inadequate because I can't snap out of IT.
> Usually when i have snapped out that's wrong too.
> Off to Tahitti!
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