Posted by trouble on March 20, 2002, at 19:36:52
In reply to Re: Really need to vent., posted by Dinah on March 20, 2002, at 18:08:44
> I can see where I get my tendency towards anxiety and catastrophizing. I got a call from my mom that my father's doctor had called and told him he had cancer. No maybes, definitely. My father is sure he's dying. (Of course he's been saying that since he was 38 and I was 6. He said life ends at 40 and he was going to die any minute and he didn't care because life wasn't worth living after you got old anyway. And of course as a six year old I took him completely literally.)
> A couple of phone calls later I find out that all the doctor had actually said was that he had blood in his urine and that it could be one of several things, three of the possibilities being cancer. They are always doing that to me. I should learn not to believe what they say, but I must be dense. Worst part is, with my mom at least, I really don't think she does it from genuine anxiety. She seems to thoroughly enjoy being in the midst of a catastrophe. Please let me not do that to my son. PLEASE, God, let me not do that to my son.
Hi Dinah,No wonder you're uncomfortable w/ ambiguity. This kind of game-playing is crazy-making, it destroys a child's sense of reality-testing and my psychologist says it's extremely resistant to "extinguishment." Very clear, my psychologist.
When I catch someone doing this kind of crazy-making on me I become speechless w/ shaking fury, and I won't calm down.take care,
trouble
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