Posted by ELA on March 5, 2002, at 5:04:26
In reply to Re: parents - the eternal battle, posted by trouble on March 5, 2002, at 4:47:24
> What are you studying at the university?
> Do you plan to return?
> Are your parents paying for school?
> When you say you "had" to come back home, was there a crises or something going on in the family, or were you just playing fast and loose w/ your grammar?
>
> Last question:> Who do you mean by "them"? Your parents or your therapeutic community?
>
Hi trouble,thanx for your post, it made a lot of sense. In answer to the above questions:
I am studying Primary Teaching at university, I want to teach kids between the ages of 3 and 8.
I don't know if I will go back to uni or not yet. I have been having doubts about teaching as a profession for some time and my illness has only added to this.
In England you have to pay £1000 tuition fees at uni and my parents and myself pay that between us. I also have to pay rent and have a student loan to do so.
I said I have to go back to the family home as I have nowhere else to go basically. I could stay with friends for a while but it would only be a temporary solution.
By "them" I mean my parents. My therapy group are great; we are really close and I have been offered places to stay by every one of them. They all understand exactly what I'm going through as they are going through it as well. My parents don't understand and see everything as a personal attack on them, they're a nightmare. They still treat me loke a 10 year old (I'm 21 in May) and I'm fed up with it. Relations with them have never been particularly good and they have used my illness as a way to try and get control back over my life. I'm not impressed!
They are putting a lot of pressure on me at the moment to "snap out of it" and go back to uni, which I simply don't want to do at the moment. They have always judged everyone on what qualifications they have and they want me to go back to uni because they approve of it, regardless of what I might want to do.
Anyway, I hope that clears some things up for you. Sorry to rave on a bit but I had to let off some steam about them!!! Keep in touch.
Emma.
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