Posted by Joe J on January 30, 2002, at 0:23:18
In reply to Re: PMS vs. PMDD vs. Bipolar (long) » Joe J, posted by wendy b. on January 29, 2002, at 9:27:11
Wow, thank you all! And sorry for dragging you all into my nightmare.
I think I am going to do the audo-tape thing first. I had contemplated that a year ago, but I was going to do that more for my benefit, and never considered that she probably doesn't realize the extent of her rage. You are right, I can only let her listen to herself when she is in her "nice mood". It will take another month now before I can do that. She came out of her "bad mood" today. A couple days ago, I told her that she would come out of it on Feb 1st, and be her normal old nice self again for 10 days. My prediction was off by 2 days. She won't start back into her "bad mood" until sometime between the 10th and the 14th of Feb. A big sigh of relief -- I made it through another month! Whew.
I am extatic.She came home last night after only about 1 hour. She was calm, didn't say a word, and went right to bed. This morning, she took the garbage out to the garage, and put the bag on the hood of my car. She called me at work twice today, and was agitated with me both times, but her anger was fizling, down around a 5 out of 10 level. Tonight, I took my youngest son and we went out for a fun-night, but I got home about an hour late. Normally, she would have been in my face yelling for 5 minutes over such an infraction, screaming that I am a terrible Dad, etc. So I was pretty tense when I walked in the door, but she was very pleasant, smiling, and being nice, never said a word about it. Darn, now this gets me feeling irritated. I was all tensed up waiting for her to explode, and then she is sweet and nice as pie. But ... YES ... now I am extremely happy. Made it through another Hurrican.
See ... now I don't feel like doing the divorce thing because I will have 10 nice days. This is the cycle I go through every month. I know I am in the eye of the Hurricane, but the eye of the Hurricane is so peacefull.
Thank you all again.
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