Posted by Fi on November 25, 2001, at 13:08:42
In reply to Re: I am SO there..... » Noa, posted by quilter on November 24, 2001, at 22:32:16
Thanks, all. I have done a *little* chucking and filing -always sounds easier as an idea than when actually trying to do it. I realise I need to throw things even tho they are useful. I've sometimes tried (unsuccessfully) to bargain with
myself that I would do a little bit at a time (eg one bag full of magazines). Just in case any of you have more willpower than me and find this works! I would certainly recommend it for things which have to be done (eg washing things)- try just a little if that is all you can face at the moment,and give yourself lots of praise.A classic CHAOS moment I have had was tidying up before calling the police after I had been burgled (the burglars hadnt caused any additional mess). Still had to explain to the cops that it always looked like this...!
I think there is something deep about it- the fact it makes me (and others) feel bad, when it isnt any risk to life or limb (as long as you dont try to cross the room in the dark!)
fi
> as my daughters would say. I keep things, (especially papers) for fear of forgetting something or for inspiration. Now that the mess has gotten ahead of me I despair of ever getting over CHAOS.
>
> I have been wondering how your less mess campaign was going.
> Quilter
>
> > > >CHAOS - can't have anyone over syndrome :-)
> >
> > Love it.
> >
> > I have always fluctuated between amassing stuff and purging it. But in recent years, I've developed something akin to hoarding--total slovenliness, leading to chaos (and, consequently, CHAOS).
> >
> > I keep trying to get a handle on it, with only modest success. It is overwhelming to get it cleaned up. My therapist and I have been trying to figure it out for a long while. Probably a reflection of self-loathing and sense of futility. I don't know.
> >
> > It's not exactly hoarding, but it has some similar features and outcomes.
> >
> > I think hoarding is more common than we know, because people are good at hiding it.
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