Posted by shelliR on November 14, 2001, at 21:41:44
In reply to Re:followup » shelliR, posted by Marie1 on November 14, 2001, at 18:39:55
Hi Marie,
> In answer to your second reply, the woman who's therapist was playing head games with her was someone posting under the name of Jennie (I think). I always used to read what she wrote because it was invariably about her shrink, and it sounded as though she was having a lot of the same feelings I was/am. I can see why you confused the two of us. Her therapist seemed to be somewhat disingenuious, though, and I wouldn't say the same thing about mine.
Oh my. Really sorry about that. I did get the two of your therapy situations mixed up. Well, I'm glad that the other therapist is not yours!
He's always been honest with me. We never really discussed my transference; I was too embarrassed to bring it up. (Also typical, according to In Session.)
I'll have to read In Session and find out if the author thinks that transference is *always* worked out, and to see if she (?) directly addresses the "how" question.
So I understand the transference thing going on here, but didn't know it could get so intense.
My transference reactions also happen very quickly, although they are getting less intense in general.(after about 20 years in therapy :-) ) The doctor who heads the unit I go in in the hospital says that transference in general only gets worked out after one has truely mourned and grieved for what they didn't get as children.
That is her take; I don't really know.> But 18 months *is* a long time, especially considering the intimacy - verbal, emotional - that was involved.
Absolutely.
> Terminating therapy is ok by me. I'm far better off than I was when I started, and feel richer (although not monetarily!) for the experience. But it's time to move on. And anyway,who needs a therapist when I have people like you and Mair to rant to?? ;-)
Well hopefully, the intensity will start at some point to fade into the background. Be patient with yourself. And I think Mair made a really good point about " no point in going back to this guy unless you have some commitment to stick
with him for awhile more."Feel free to yell across the river at any time.
Take care, and again my apologies,
Shelli
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