Posted by Krazy Kat on November 5, 2001, at 18:10:45
In reply to Re: Greg + A. - a question re: drinking and marriage, posted by Greg A. on November 5, 2001, at 17:49:11
Greg A++:
Gee, thanks for sharing that much.
I think mainly as long as I don't say anything, my husband won't say anything. I've noticed this tendency having trouble not drinking recently is at least partly in reaction to situational depression - I really don't want to live where I do - I want to go back to the city. Also, I thought there would be a large difference in our marriage after April. There was - for a little while. Though he does do things like give me more room than before, the arguing is back, the condescencion (I can't spell that word). I am one for romantic love, which is why I married so young. But I look at our marriage and it's built on deceit. And mostly my following him, and resenting it.
I'm having trouble being with him without drinking, but not others, and this is a bad sign, I think.
I also feel as if I never "grew up" because my twenties were spent with a reclusive husband and this illness. I wasn't normal for a second.
My heart is hurting so much.
You are going to have to start charging fees for these consultations. :)
Thanks, Greg.
- K.
P.S. Yes, when the communication wears out and when you aren't noticing the little things anymore, it seems like the relationship is taking a bad turn. But I do believe in sticking with it. I just can't feel anything good about it right now.
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