Posted by kid_A on July 18, 2001, at 22:36:40
In reply to Love only in fairy tales?, posted by Patches on July 18, 2001, at 21:59:56
Patches,
I've never been married, though I do understand what it is like to put more into something than you get out of it. I understand this in myself and in others; to give more of yourself to someone than you have ever given anyone, yet to always yield the same results, detachment, distance... Imbalance. Alternately I've thought that love was for everyone else, love is possession, love being what you can do for me... love is how you make me feel, not my feeling for you... But yet I knew how to fall in love, it was easy for me, and I have loved before, real love that pledges your soul to the offered... If you can feel love, than there is love, than love must be real... love takes communication, love takes understanding, patience and willingness to forget yourself, willingness to be entirely naked with your feelings. Maybe this person isnt emotionally capable of doing this, maybe this will take some work between the both of you to accomplish... I still don't know entirely what love is, but I know that I love to love someone, that above all its nearly the best feeling in the world, second only to reciprocated love. I think that is worth any amount of work you put in to your relationship. Speak up, make your feelings known, don't be mute and unhappy. When life is out of balance, you who see it clearly must put it in balance. If this is what you wish. Just don't be unhappy to spite yourself, and don't cut too deep, I can still read what I've cut in my arms... Like a book.please/be/well.
peace.
poster:kid_A
thread:7625
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