Posted by Noa on March 30, 2001, at 16:29:15
In reply to Can someone please explain how to overcome..., posted by Dubya on March 30, 2001, at 15:52:23
Oops. nevermind the last post. I thought I was at regular babble, but here we are already at social. Sometimes I can be a real space cadet.
Anyway. Give yourself a break.
I too have grieved all the lost years for not having adequate treatment for depression, etc. But there were lots of reasons for that, and I gotta let go and move on.
But the grieving is good. Yes, feel sad about the lost years, but don't blame yourself for them. You should focus on how NOW you are starting to take the steps needed to address the problems.
It goes one day at a time. Really. Patience is truly a virtue in dealing with these illnesses.
You cannot expect yourself to "get over" this stuff fast. It is a process.
Every day, make the goal of being just a bit kinder and gentler (true, I wasn't a G. Bush, Sr. fan, but I really did like that phrase a lot) and more generous with yourself. See if you can be kinder to yourself in one or two small ways each day--say something forgiving to yourself to answer the self-critical internal voice, for example.
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