Posted by jay on June 26, 2005, at 17:32:51
In reply to Jazzed, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 24, 2005, at 20:08:41
> If I had posted that sort of question, I would not have found your response offensive. Actually, sometimes I find it very validating to have someone just say "He's being a jerk!" then I feel like it's okay for me to angry. Obviously, to each his/her own, but I certainly wouldn't think that most people would find your post offensive, not at all.
>Jyl's point is about treating people the way we would want to be treated, in a civil manner. It HAS to be in a civil manner, mainly because that is part of the diplomacy of marriage and relationships. Even after all of the hell I have lived through (Having my wife and daughter die within one year gave me some...perspective) your situation (and Mental Health) does not give you full license to do whatever the heck you want without repercussions. And then just expect others to blanket everything with "ohh..that's o.k." After my loses, I at first felt I had a right to blame others with "..why are YOU alive..and they aren't??". But, with the help of some therapy and wonderful relatives, I knew I couldn't carry on with a grudge against humanity, and against others.
Anyhow, IMHO...
Jay
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