Posted by alexandra_k on March 8, 2014, at 14:57:43
In reply to Re: My therapist on extended leave, posted by Dinah Seeks Support on March 8, 2014, at 9:28:14
> Well, his phone message is updated to say the same thing. It's his voice and he sounds coherent and strong enough. So he could have sent a less generic message.
that doesn't follow at all.
i'd say the truth is that he needs to be focused on what is good for him right now. he isn't in the position to be focused on what is in the best interests of other people.
my actual 'worst case scenario' was something like... cancer. something like that. where he needs to muster all the strength and support he can... perhaps deal with all kinds of family crap that comes from people coming and wanting to spend time with and fussing... to do some treatment that will leave him exhausted and physically (and most definitely) emotionally exhausted... to take time to recover from that...
that was more what i was thinking.
which just means... he isn't in the position to be processing things with you right now. about what it means to you that he isn't there. about how angry and sad etc etc you feel... but of course it is entirely understandable that you feel all these feelings... and so he gave you a referral of someone who he believe would be good for you.
did you think that maybe this person he has referred you to... just maybe... he has a collegial relationship with your therapist (or something like that) and that he actually knows what is up with your therapist and that your therapist referred you to this person precisely because this person would be helpful to you right now?
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perhaps.you won't know if you don't try and get in to see them...
i know this is hard... but think about the alternatives:
- he could have kept seeing you (his voice sounded strong enough) but he wouldn't be strong enough to keep focused on what is good for you appropriately. in other words: he would have ended up hurting you more.
- he could have not given you a referral. which would have left you abandoned, rather.i'm not trying to undemine how hard this must be for you...
i suppose it is possible he left the message from a jail cell lol. itd would probably be real awkward trying to conduct therapy from there...
hang in there.
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