Posted by Dinah on September 23, 2013, at 19:01:14
In reply to Re: Ideal Fit, posted by pegasus on September 19, 2013, at 12:56:44
I'm not sure I meant *that* much chemistry. That much chemistry is not something I have or want with my therapist. Personally we don't click at all. Even professionally, I sometimes wonder if he can possibly understand me, because in fundamental ways we are very different.
I think what I meant was more....
I couldn't mesh well with a gung-ho very positive therapist. It would make me react in a knee-jerk negative way. I wouldn't deal well with even the most skilled "direct" therapist. I'd consider it rude. I couldn't even deal well with a very supportive or empathetic therapist. It would make me want to draw back.
I always say that I like my therapist because he stays in his chair, by which I mean his energy doesn't pop out at one. He can be receptive, but he's never squishy. The way he speaks and the energy he exudes, he does in a way that I can accept and appreciate. I'd say that as much as anything else, it's a question of energy and how it's expressed, with me. How comfortable I feel with someone has a whole lot to do with that, though I'm not particularly able to explain it well.
For me, that's very important. I don't know how important it would be for others.
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