Posted by alexandra_k on September 6, 2013, at 22:17:11
In reply to Re: Ideal Therapist » alexandra_k, posted by Twinleaf on September 6, 2013, at 21:18:05
I'm not sure. Sometimes it is helpful to do things that are hard. Other times it isn't. It just felt... Too intimate. Eye contact is like touch for me... In the sense of prolongued forms with deliberate intent feeling extremely intimate. Clinging to him... Side on... Would feel to me like a step down from that, if that makes sense. But that would (by most people) be considered inappropriate. It would feel safer for me, though, since he couldn't see my face. I'm not entirely sure what it is about.
I'm normal with my eye contact in my teaching and my interactions with my friends. When I talk about stuff that is hard for me then I can't do eye contact, though. Most of my therapists go through a phase of wanting to talk to me about why I won't look at them (after greeting them appropriately in the waiting room for the first few sessions, anyway). I've had some think that I was being deceptive or holding back... It is more that not looking at them... Is what allows me to be honest and forthcoming.
I wonder if it is something that would be good for me to work on... Or whether it is a way of being... That I am able to me more intimate in other ways because of it. I don't know.
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