Posted by Tabitha on October 18, 2012, at 12:18:13
In reply to Re: Psychology of aging » Tabitha, posted by Dinah on October 18, 2012, at 7:36:18
> I like that! It is a nice realistic approach, and not excessively cheerful.
Dinah if you ever notice me being excessively cheerful, please speak up. No doubt it would mean I need a med adjustment :-)
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> It's especially something I need to keep in mind as my son approaches college age. My inclination is to cry because I'll be losing my little boy, and to remember sticky fingers and warm hugs. But I need to keep in mind that in its place is a fine young man, and that's a blessing of its own.
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> At least I'll try.That's the spirit. There's something to balance the tears and sadness. Plus that little boy is still in your memory and pictures.
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> Do you miss your therapist at all? (Assuming that your parting wasn't an already finished break.)Really I don't. A few weeks after terminating I wrote her a letter. The main themes were to reassure her that I was doing fine, refelct a bit on the highs and lows of our relationship, and let her know I was still convinced that terminating was a good thing. She didn't respond. I was a tiny bit disappointed. I guess I would have liked some acknowledgement for my effort. Since then I notice I hardly think of her. There was one really really bad day where I felt tempted to call. I was desperate for even the tiny bit of comfort I would have gotten. But I didn't, and that bad day passed. Sometimes I think there's truly something wrong with my attachment style that I let go of that relationship so easily.
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> I was all set to start spacing my own visits when I realized that I couldn't call my mother except on my way to sessions. Timing just isn't right.You'll know when and if it is.
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