Posted by Raisinb on January 13, 2012, at 17:42:10
In reply to What you pay for, posted by pegasus on January 11, 2012, at 15:43:03
I have a different take--I read it and actually really liked it. What I like is the honesty and the reassurance that if they can't care (in all the complex meanings of the term) they don't take you. Isn't that awesome?
I teach and also manage other teachers. People make boundary mistakes with me all the time--for instance, people who work for me think that it is my job to listen to them vent (ie, they confuse their boss with their therapist). Those people make me look for an excuse to get rid of them, because in aggregate, it ain't fun. Some (adult) students think it is my job to "care," which to them means put up with whatever nonsense they feel like dishing out. Over the years I have come to feel more and more that to minimize conflict and keep the relatioinships good and me from kicking someone, it is absolutely crucial to make it clear to people what and what isn't my role.
The therapist who wrote this is articulating her emotional responsibilities professionally and personally, and being very clear about it. If all Ts were this clear, there would be less burnout and resentments towards clients, IMHO.
poster:Raisinb
thread:1006988
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20111220/msgs/1007182.html