Posted by lucielu2 on August 6, 2011, at 11:07:17
In reply to Re: help - feels like an impasse » lucielu2, posted by annierose on August 6, 2011, at 7:20:41
Annierose, thanks for the encouragement. I'm glad I'm not the only one with an eye-rolling daughter :-)
You made an excellent and very thought-provoking point about tying in this separation with that from my T. I think you are right on target. He is going away soon for 3 weeks. Last year I was fine with that but this year all the old bugaboos have re-emerged. How did you know I was feeling that things just weren't the same with seeing him twice a week again? Now that you bring it up, I have found myself worrying more that he doesn't like me as much these days, finds me boring, etc. I guess I do worry underneath all that whether he is pulling away from me too.
All summer I have had trouble connecting with the people in my life. I have tended to isolate myself as well. I feel so much more skeptical and cynical about my relationships, which all feel more flimsy than they did before. This may be my way of handling major separations. My daughter's leaving certainly foreshadows the end of therapy, even though my T isn't pushing me to terminate.
No, she is not going far away. Both girls actually stayed close to home although we all agreed they would not live at home. So the separation with the older one was postponed until she graduated and went to grad school in another state. She moved there permanently. This was just a year ago, so it has felt like both daughters departing in relatively short order. Coupled with cutting down in therapy, separation has been the theme of the year.
Lucie
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