Posted by sassyfrancesca on January 25, 2010, at 10:31:37
In reply to transference nightmare, posted by ebo4ny on January 23, 2010, at 16:01:59
> I've been seeing my therapist for a little less than half a year. We had very good chemistry in session and I felt that he was very empathetic and I was starting to trust him. Sometimes I felt that he seemed attracted to me, but I assumed that it was a projection coming from my history with men.
I wouldn't assume anything, or that it is about the past.
He seemed to not be doing or saying anything unproffessional. It was just a feeling, based my reading of body language and expressions.
Always trust your gut instincts. They are usually right.
> He shares a lot of information about his personal life. I know a lot about his dating history his divorce certain aspects of his childhood etc.> About three months in I had a very unsettling dream about my father and as soon as I woke up I knew it was really about my therapist. I told my therapist about the dream at which point he informed me that I had a crush on him.
That is ridiculous....I would call THAT...projection (what he wishes). He has NO way of know what the dream was about.
> The situation was very shame inducing.You have NOTHING to feel ashamed about.
It was around that time that he started ragging on my clothes.
He has NO business talking about your clothes.
It seemed like no matter what I wore, he had something to say about it(ie "Well you're looking like you put quite a bit of thought into your clothes today. Did you have somewhere else you were going after therapy?").
None of his business; sounds like he is trying to find out things about your personal life/jealous maybe.
So I started wearing baggy jeans and turtle necks and he still had something to say. I tried talking to him about how this made me feel and he said "My feelings toward my patients are dispassionate, Kimmy"
"Dispassionate???!!! Wrong; a therapist is supposed to care and love their clients.
even though I wasn't even talking about his feelings. I was trying to tell him that I felt he was accusing me of being seductive when i was trying not to be and it hurt my feelings and this is his response? He wont let me talk about any of this directly and I feel frustrated as hell, what should I do?
The job of a t is to listen to WHATEVER the client wants to discuss; if they won't they are not doing their job.
Sounds like he has a lot of stuff he is transferring/dumping on you that you know nothing about. You are there to discuss YOUR issues, not his.
Sassy
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