Posted by MysticKangaroo on January 8, 2010, at 2:01:52
In reply to egocentric stage, posted by blahblahblah on January 6, 2010, at 6:11:18
Hi Blah
My 10 cents worth is your T is concerned that your sense of who you are disappears around them. Umm it is not OK for ppl to hurt you. Doesn't matter who they are. Of course T's try darn hard not to. But... giving them permission doesn't sound like a good idea to me.
I know when I am being egocentric when I have to be the star of the show. It is ALL about me. I cause other people's feelings. Sometimes for a bit of variation it is that somebody else has made me the victim and I am stuck. Either way I am not actively engaging with what is going on. The other person is not free to be themselves because I won't let them!!
I know when my ego is strong when I can see the pattern or the dynamic and choose how I respond. Not locking myself in. Or the other person. I think that includes my T. (We haven't been working long enough for us to get to this. I'm sure it will come up.... :)
In Australia in the 70's there was a band called Skyhooks. they had a hit with "Ego is not a dirty Word". I think they still have something to offer...
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