Posted by workinprogress on December 22, 2009, at 0:53:57
In reply to Sharing my story (Very Long Post), posted by Verloren on December 21, 2009, at 9:08:43
Veloren-
I'm so sorry you're hurting. Such strong, painful feelings. Believe me, and TG and all the others, when I saw we know. The pain and confusion of transference is absolutely real, but I've also found that it's pretty darn necessary. More necessary is to find a T that gets how necessary it is.
What I would say though, is that given how intensely painful transference is, we look for any way to alleviate it. Maybe Ada gave you some alleviation, some assurance that you weren't bad for feeling the way you do. I know I was looking everywhere for that, even when I got up the guts to talk to my T and she told me so- I needed someone outside the room to tell me that what was going on inside was ok. Maybe that's part of what's up with Ada?
Regardless, please do talk to your T, share what you shared here. I bet you two will get through it.
I agree with many others here though, on an ongoing basis, I would find it very confusing, not to mention expensive, to see two Ts.
hugs...
WIP
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