Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 22, 2009, at 12:52:37
In reply to Re: feeling needy- update from call » workinprogress, posted by fleeting flutterby on October 22, 2009, at 10:22:50
Oh, sweetie: We are ALL needy to one extent or another; there should be no shame attached to that. I too, have the abandonment thing going on. As the moderator of an abused survivors group, I tell the that.....when we were born, we were perfect; somewhere along the way (dysfuntional) people(s) told us lies about ourselves (you are messages). Those were and ARE lies.
Unfortuately, as children we believe those lies, because we believe adults know the truth. The truth is those adults dumped their ugly feelings and thoughts onto an innocent child.
Now "we" have to try to undo that damage.
Love, Sassy
P.S. I endured a childhood of abuse,, 31 years of abusive marriage, abuse from a church (www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com) and managed to pull myself up, join the army, win a scholarship (not academic, but I wrote about my life); go back to school at age 60, write my memoir, having my poetry published, etc., etc.......anyone can do it. We all need acceptance, love and a big need to be heard.
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