Posted by Dinah on October 11, 2009, at 9:00:08
In reply to Re: Homely then » Dinah, posted by seldomseen on October 10, 2009, at 18:33:11
Thank you, Seldom. :)
My feelings are so conflicting on the topic. On the one hand, I really do think my mother is ugly, so when I see her face in my mirror, I see ugly. But my grandma was beautiful, and she looked more or less the same.
And the most romantic thing I've ever seen on screen was when coach's daughter (played by Allyce Beasley) was trying to point out that she deserved nothing better than her lout of a fiance. She begs him to look at her. He stares and says that he hadn't realized how much she looks like her mother. She starts to point out that that was the problem, when she sees her father's look of blank incomprehension and amends it to "Mom was not... comfortable with her beauty." His reply that that made her even more beautiful and that she grew more beautiful every day of her life was pure romance of the real variety. Forget Rhett sweeping Scarlett upstairs. It reminded me of how Grandpa looked at Grandma.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kQ6rwZg-J9w
(about 2:40 in)
Yet my other feelings are very real either. I never think of myself as pretty, I wasn't even a pretty child. But I was comfortable with being a ridiculously skinny kid, always tan, with thin blonde hair that was always falling out of its ponytails, shirttail askew, and socks that slid down into my shoes. What I see now just isn't me.
Then of course there are the practical issues that I really ought to lose fifty pounds or so.
It's complicated, and I'm glad that I'll be able to really discuss it with him.
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