Posted by onceupon on September 8, 2009, at 22:28:53
In reply to Missing T and depressed, posted by skittlespanda on September 8, 2009, at 19:45:16
Have you tried writing out what you might like to say to your therapist first? I ask because I wonder if it might be helpful for you to get the thoughts "out there" without the risk of receiving an unsatisfying (or no) response from her.
I'm so sorry that you're struggling with this now. I had a similar experience 5 years ago when I moved away from my therapist of about 1.5 years. Even though I was functioning "fine" in my life and my mood was mostly stable, it felt like I had been ripped apart at times. I did end up contacting my therapist, but she had given me her email and specified that it would be fine for me to contact her, but that we could no longer do therapy, etc., etc. I knew there was no chance of my moving back to her locale (I moved 1000+ miles away), so that made my circumstances a little different from yours.
I did find myself unsatisfied with her brief (yet warm) responses, I think mostly because I wanted to see *her* in the flesh, and not some e-version of her. She was kind and supportive, but in the end I did find another therapist for support (though I never quite felt comfortable processing the loss of my first therapist - but that's a story for another time and place). FWIW, now, 5 years later, I still contact her maybe twice a year to say hi and give brief updates on my life.
I didn't mean to write a book here; it's funny how old grief can really tug at me sometimes. I do wish you the best of luck and hope, like emilyp suggested, that you do consider seeking out a new therapist, as painful and difficult (or not) as that might be. Take care.
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