Posted by Dinah on September 5, 2009, at 10:30:22
In reply to How much pain..., posted by peddidle on September 5, 2009, at 2:47:14
Then one after that.
The problem is that you are experiencing pain now, and remembering all the pain you've ever experienced before, and projecting it forward to a lifetime of pain.
But that's not the way it is. Pain waxes and wanes. You've experienced good times before. And you will experience them again.
So when you're feeling this much pain, don't look far into the future. Your view isn't clear from where you are. Just grit your teeth and make it through today. Do what you can to make your pain better today, without creating problems that will cause you pain tomorrow. If you are able, maybe think of things that can improve your life tomorrow.
Loss sucks. It just does. Grief hurts. There's all too much loss in life. But that's only because there is a lot of bonds that we make during life, bonds that bring us joy and comfort.
But grief also subsides over time, and loss becomes a dull ache that sometimes flares to a pain.
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