Posted by Dinah on August 7, 2009, at 9:05:59
In reply to Re: no hug, posted by sunnydays on August 7, 2009, at 8:38:30
My therapist (usually) responds with the same compassionate firmness when I run into a boundary. But those boundaries must be made of something very abrasive, because no matter how he tries to cushion the blow, they just hurt.
It is extra hard when the issue is one where therapists differ in where to place the boundary. I sometimes feel a bit hurt when I realize that my therapist would never ever do some of the things that other therapists do. And hugs are such an integral longing. Even for me, and I don't even like to be touched in general.
I do admire your trust and willingness to be vulnerable with him. I usually sound my therapist out about his boundaries before I anywhere near approach them. Your asking him appears to me to indicate a very firm foundation for your therapy. As does his response.
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