Posted by B2chica on April 9, 2009, at 9:01:51
In reply to Re: Can suicide be an act of revenge?, posted by Tabitha on April 9, 2009, at 0:39:43
i think it's a very interesting question.
first i would be upset if a 'survivor' said that. HOWEVER, they may still be dealing with a lot of denial or anger toward the suicide.
that kind of death just leaves SO many unanswered questions that it's harder for people to grasp than other ways of dying.
so with that i think that person should be approached with some tact.you say the person that committed suicide was dealing with depression for years. then it just might...(and i say 'might) help to teach that person about depression and how it can affect a person. but my guess is this person just isn't ready to hear any of it...and they may never be. maybe its' easier to pin a "bad person" label on the person who died than it is to deal with the issues it brings up.
There's usually a lot of guilt by the survivors...i personally attest to that.just because of how many times i've been to the 'brink', i just cant grasp how anyone (feeling fine but angry at someone) would do it. i'm not saying it can't or hasn't happened. but my guess would be that 99.999% would NOT be like that. i mean you're taking your LIFE...there are no 'take backs'. So anyone who commits suicide IS dealing with some type of mental illness....(in my eyes) period.
i guess to get back to that person. i think you should show them that such an assumption is most likely wrong. if you think they would be receptive to learning about depression, give them websites to go to, or talk personal experience.
and if they are resistant (and even if their not) say to them just what you stated. that such a comment is disturbing and you would rather not hear that.i just know that every attempt and every completion is different. even with me sometimes the power, and drive behind wanting to die can have slightly different origins.
but NEVER has death been a "revenge" possibility, and to me that thought is absurd.
but i guess that because i usually feel just the opposite. that i have so much pain inside that i'm effecting negatively everyone around me so to 'save them' from the pain i must 'leave'.... complete opposite of revenge.hth
b2.
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