Posted by raisinb on April 8, 2009, at 14:03:38
In reply to Re: update--need some feedback » raisinb, posted by antigua3 on April 8, 2009, at 13:04:46
Antigua, I asked her several times why she decided to say this to me *now*. Her answer is that she wanted to work through how that felt to me, and she felt we might be ready to have that conversation. I said in the session, "It isn't what I needed to hear two sessions after we came back." She said, "you're absolutely right. I'm sorry." Then she wanted to ask, "how does it feel when I do this to you?" You can imagine I wasn't going to answer that, or any of her questions, by that point.
You're right about what triggered me. I do have younger siblings, and that's absolutely what happened--my mother expected me not only to deal with it, but to help take care of them when I was four and my brother was born.
I honestly don't know whether to go tomorrow or not. Part of me feels like *she* needs something to surprise her, to force her to think about things--like me not showing without canceling.
I don't know why she consulted, and I always was relieved that she frequently consulted on me--but you're right, this time doesn't sit right with me either.
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