Posted by antigua3 on March 28, 2009, at 11:21:08
In reply to Regression work and need for comfort, posted by DAisym on March 26, 2009, at 21:26:28
I was so touched by this and I had to take the time to really think this over before replying. Maybe because my 9-yr-old became the comforter of the youngest, the one who suffered the most. My 9-yr-old is pretty strong, maybe because that's about the age my abuser left our household and while I wasn't free, I started to find a sense of security and safety (that was soon blown out of the water, but that's another story) that seems to have stayed with that young girl.
I was struck by how you knew what the aftermath was like and what would have comforted you. I have that for my youngest one. I can remember great detail about how I felt in the aftermath and what would have comforted me. I try--well maybe I used to try, I seem to have strayed from it so thanks for the reminder of how important it is--to comfort that little girl, but it isn't ever "enough" if you know what I mean. It hasn't healed the wounds at all, but it has made me eliminate so much of my self-destructive behavior.
But I want the wounds to heal! Permanently. I've had enough and it doesn't seem to resolve itself, no matter how hard or difficult the work is. Yes, I know I'm stuck at the moment, but it is incredibly difficult to have faith when I feel like this. (sorry for the mini rant)
Your T did/does a wonderful job with the younger parts of you, but you work very hard at it too, no matter how difficult it is or the terrifically hard places you have to go.
Someday (?) our parts will meet in the middle and we will be one. But we have to wait until we're strong enough and we're ready.
Keep up the good work, Daisy. You are an inspiration.
antigua
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