Posted by HappyChaiTea on February 14, 2009, at 8:12:48
In reply to Re: My T says he deserves a little humilation » SlugSlimersSoSlided, posted by wittgensteinz on February 14, 2009, at 5:34:52
Thanks Witti,
I salted those slugs for now. lol I trying hard to believe everyone and my T that what my T did was his fault, his responsibility.
Some people ask me well didn't you need this to feel better about yourself, etc. I have heard it all, and it puts the responsibility on me, like I asked for it. When will the world stop blaming the victim in things? The thing is most victims do blame themselves so when people say comments like this, it just brings even more shame on the victims.
I just wish I didn't feel so much pain, maybe it felt good at the time, but the pain now is not worth it at all. That is why T's shouldn't do these things, there are no short term fixes, they need to be ethical.
Intellectually I get it, but emotionally I am struggling so much to believe it wasn't my fault. I feel we were both adults, blah blah blah, but we were not equal, he was my T.
Sorry for my rambling Witti....
Thank you for your support Witti
poster:HappyChaiTea
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