Posted by Sharon7 on February 11, 2009, at 19:32:26
In reply to Re: Therapist retired but we still are in contact., posted by Freudiannic on February 11, 2009, at 17:16:22
Hey, Freudiannic. You know, I may be way out of line and please forgive me if I say the wrong thing (I worry about that,) but that snippet you shared from the email your therapist I thought sounded very rude! You responded strongly, but in my opinion, you were well justified. I don't know, Freudiannic. I guess it kind of bothers me that he (at least in that email) seemed to have such little regard for your feelings, as you pointed out in your reply, so basically I'm agreeing with you, so maybe I'm not too out of line.
I know I could have just kept my mouth shut, but I really wanted to express my opionion. I know this is someone you have a strong bond with and consider a parental figure, and do I ever know how strong of a bond that can be, so I would never want to say anything to make you think I'm 'dissing' him. Well, hopefully when we (babbling folk) put stuff out there for public consumption, we are wanting to hear what other people think, perhaps even if it's not what we want to hear. Know what I mean?
Anyhow, I just did not appreciate him taking that tone with you in the email, especially after the long relationship you've had and how handsomely (in my opinion) he's been compensated. And didn't you also say he has not responded to your response about the bill?
Well, you know I wish you the best. I really hope you find a new therapist. I think you'd feel a whole lot better to get this off your chest and hopefully get some closure. It may very well be you have benefited all you are going to at this point working with your former T. I'm glad he was helpful to you (I am assuming that's the case because you stayed with him for so long,) and for you to have bonded with him to the point of thinking of him as a parent, I know he had to have been treating you a heck of a lot better during your analysis than he did with that email. The 'Best wishes' also seems kinda formal, but I've never gotten any type of mail from mine, so she may very well say the same thing. But our relationship is fairly new in comparision to yours.
Well, I'm going to shut up now. Stay in touch, will you? I'd really like to hear how this all unfolds. Take care! I'll do you like I do my therapist: are you mad at me?!?! lol!
Sharon
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