Posted by Freudiannic on February 11, 2009, at 1:13:12
In reply to Re: Therapist retired but we still are in contact. » Freudiannic, posted by Sharon7 on February 10, 2009, at 21:37:41
doing therapy with me. An example of this is him telling me we are relationship was mentor/mentee one week then the next week he sends a bill from 2005. I find the timing of the bill to be noteworthy. Prior to the bill I sent him an email because he was supposed to call me that day. I sent him an email saying, I figure you got busy and didnt have the time. He replied in an email that it was none of my business about where he comes and goes.
I simply said I assumed you got busy because he was supposed to call. This is just an example of the relationship patients are doctors have. The T has more control because he/she knows your weaknesses. Another example of his mixed messages is the fact that he still talks to me as if I was a child. If he doesnt like an email, he wont reply for weeks. That said, I find him to be punitive while at the same times he says, dont censor your thoughts.
I know I am very lucky for him to still speak to me 4 years after he retired and moved. In some ways I think it would have been easier if he had made a clean cut. I feel is if I am constantly stuck in the grey area of the relationship.
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