Posted by Sharon7 on February 7, 2009, at 8:37:26
In reply to Developmental stages in therapy, posted by DAisym on February 6, 2009, at 23:31:42
Good morning, Daisy. Just wanted to say I could relate to everything you said in your post. Just a different cast of characters is all!
Yes, it is hard work, but I have to believe the payoff will be worth it. (I make it sound like I'm actualling 'working' right now!) I'm still at the 'standing at the edge of the cliff' stage, trying to get up the courage to dive in and actually start talking about my needs and fears to my therapist (and to trust that she really wants me to.) I'd like to know what the success rate is for people neglected as children who now as adults have all kinds of developmental, inter-personal, social, physical, emotional deficiencies. I'd sure like to talk to some people that were able to get past the abandonment fears and basically just the need for someone to parent them.
Another thing I think that makes the idea of embarking on the long term therapy scary, at least for me is, beacause abandonment and loss are such huge issues, I know I'm just a pink slip away from not being able to see my T, and a job loss would be something not in the control of either me or my T. And while I'd much rather have to stop therapy for an inability to pay rather than being dumped or me wimping out on doing the work. So even if I do get to where I feel I can completely trust my T and can open up to her completely, and she is game to help me work through my issues, it could all come to a screeching halt with absolutely no warning. I don't spend a lot of time thinking about that, but it could always happen, especially in this economy. If that were to happen, of course my T would not be able to see me anymore, and depending on how far along I was in my recovery when I had to stop therapy, I guess would determine how I fared! I'm just afraid mine is going to be a long road to repair. I have not reason to think I'll lose my job. I've never been unemployed in all the years I've been working (and I realize how blessed I am for that.)
Well, I'm starting to ramble again. I enjoyed reading your post. Thanks for sharing all that. Sure helps to know you're not alone!
take care and have a good day. (o:
Sharon
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