Posted by sassyfrancesca on January 28, 2009, at 13:15:59
In reply to Re: Gifts, posted by backseatdriver on January 28, 2009, at 11:05:59
> Just wanted to affirm Flutterby's point, about knowing a lot about your own expectations before you give the gift. I gave a small gift to my therapist -- one of my stories -- and he returned it the following week with a very hurtful and official statement that to accept gifts is to establish a "dual relationship" with a client (social as well as professional) and this is Not Done.
That was very cruel. I am so sorry. Accepting gifts is NOT establishing a dual relationship (too long to go into here), and even if it were, he could have handled it sensitively.
Shame on him!
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> I've never understood why. I feel it is a cruel and withholding move, intended to keep me and my feelings at a distance. My self-esteem is small and battered but it persists in the face of this sort of thing, which is the good news. Now I just try to avoid doing things to peeve him. I am very compliant,How sad you have to feel that way; you should be free to say and do whatever you wish in therapy. THEY have rules to follow. you do not. I've never been compliant, LOL, LOL
Love, Sassy
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