Posted by Wittgensteinz on January 20, 2009, at 14:37:43
In reply to Re: Mothering my mother and family dysfunction. » seldomseen, posted by Wittgensteinz on January 20, 2009, at 14:27:34
PS. I imagine reacting to your father's unexpected response was even more of a challenge - but by the sounds of it you handled it just right. Yes you can change, but perhaps so can they (or at least your father).
My mother had the same thing with her parents, and it was a daily frustration for her (they were abusive to her as a child (I don't know too many details just it was bad), she hated them but she never kept her boundaries with them - ultimately they died and in the meanwhile she was repeating the same pattern of abuse with her own children - my brother and I). She never stood up to them - I'll probably in time have this with her, as she ages, but I intend too to put a stop to this pattern.
Witti
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