Posted by Dinah on January 3, 2009, at 13:55:24
One of the things that is to be on my list is that I wish I were better at socializing.
Today I was wondering aloud if I looked as socially anxious as I felt, because I know I've gotten feedback that I appear to be standoffish rather than anxious. My husband told me that I'm really not bad in social situations, except maybe parties. That I can talk a little bit about a lot of topics without being at all confrontational, and that I can draw people out pretty well.
He says I look more comfortable than he does.
That totally floored me. I knew I was able to put up a shield that probably kept me from appearing too anxious. But I didn't realize that I could look *comfortable* on the outside! That's some shield.
At least he exempted parties and large social events. I *know* I'm a social liability at those, and I'd have discounted everything he said if he thought otherwise.
poster:Dinah
thread:872106
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20081219/msgs/872106.html